The average wedding can create a substantial amount of stress, but then you add in a pandemic, and things escalate. Try not to let the stress get the better of you. When you feel those anxious thoughts begin to creep in, take action. Here’s how to make things less stressful.
Create lists. And then more lists. Having a to-do list can help you stay on track, but also give a sense of accomplishment as you check off boxes. If organization isn’t your strong suit, this is what a wedding planner is for. Rely on a trusted professional for their words of wisdom and organization skills.
You don’t have to do it all! Sure, you might have an idea in your mind that you feel only you can bring to life, but you have capable people around you. Look to your vendors for their expertise. If you feel overwhelmed, that’s what your wedding party is for. Don’t be afraid to put them to work – they know what they signed up for.
Get your most important tasks done first. This way if the small things don’t get done, it isn’t a big deal. And while those little details might be important to you, consider this: who, aside from yourself, will notice? Guests will remember the experience most of all.
HAVE A PLAN B
If COVID has taught us anything, it’s that plans change unexpectedly. This is something you should mentally prepare for by having back-up plans — venue, guest list, etc. Having contingencies will help eliminate disappointment.
TALK ABOUT OTHER THINGS
Don’t let wedding discussions consume every minute of your life. Plan a date night with your significant other and abide by one rule: no wedding talk! Forget about spreadsheets and guest lists and registries, and put some romance back into your relationship. Or, get together with your wedding party for a crazy night out (again, no mention of wedding planning). Go dancing, see a hockey game or get active. Blowing off some steam can leave you feeling refreshed and ready to tackle tedious planning.
CUT THE TOXICITY
This is your wedding, and you should be focussed on your own happiness, not pleasing others. Have a bridesmaid causing issues? Talk it out; don’t let it fester. If problems continue, removing that person from the wedding party could be an option. Parents giving you a hard time? Again, have a frank discussion about your feelings. These can be awkward conversations, but you don’t want a couple bad apples to ruin your wedding experience. You’ll feel so much relief after getting things out in the open. Try to stay calm and level-headed, while making your points clear. Getting the issues out in the open can alleviate tension and help you sleep better at night.
PREPARE FOR POST-WEDDING BLUES
After the wedding, couples can often have a moment or two of sadness, knowing that the big day is over. (Remember Monica on “Friends” after she was married? “ I will never be a bride again. Now I’m just someone’s wife.”) Remember that you have lots to look forward to: the honeymoon, photos, presents. And if you can’t shake the feeling, create a new goal. Maybe take up a new hobby, renovate a room in your home or plan a trip. If these feelings persist after a few months and affect your day-to-day mental or physical health, seek professional help.
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