You selected your bridesmaids for a reason. Most likely, they are your closest friends and family. Remember to treat them with respect, or your wedding day might be the last time you see them!
Allow their input on fashion. Sure, the overall look for your wedding is your call, so set the colour palette, but give some freedom when it comes to dress style and shade. And while it does look nice when everyone wears matching shoes, some women are more comfortable in flats or want sky-high heels. Let them wear whatever they are comfy in.
Respect their personal time. Shocker, but your maids have lives outside of your wedding. They have jobs, kids and possibly their own weddings to plan. And outside their responsibilities, they need free time, too. Just because they are off on Saturdays doesn’t mean they want to DIY all your décor for hours and hours.
Set a reasonable budget. Have candid discussions with your girls to be sure the expenses are not outside their means. Don’t insist they wear $300 shoes when $30 shoes will do.
Don’t force uncomfortable trips. A bachelorette party to Nashville sounds amazing, but often, your bridesmaids won’t know each other that well. Asking them to become roommates with a near-stranger can make people feel uncomfortable.
Know that wedding accessories are not a gift. If you are forcing your wedding party to wear the same jewelry or shawl, for example, that should not be your thank-you gift. They may never wear those earrings again. Give something personal and meaningful.
Talk about things other than the wedding. Your friends have interesting lives, too. Let them share.
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