For the best man, duties extend far beyond standing at the altar and not losing the ring. From making sure the bachelor party doesn’t end up being a Hangover sequel to shepherding the groomsmen to delivering the perfect speech that hits all the right notes, the pressure is on, says wedding expert Chris Badja. According to the owner and founder of the groomsmen’s gift site, Groomsday, preparation is key with all facets of the best man’s duties, no matter how big or small.
Here, he offers some key advice to help the best man confidently manage their
responsibilities and make sure the unforgettable memories roll on.
Planning the bachelor party
“Communicate early with the groom and his friends to plan something that reflects the groom’s personality,” says Badja. “Whether it’s a casual night out or an activity-packed weekend, focus on making the groom feel special.”
TIP: Start planning the bachelor party at least three to six months before the wedding to allow time for organizing logistics and getting everyone on board.
Managing the groomsmen
Whether it’s close-knit friends or a ragtag group of people the groom has met along the way, the best man is responsible for coordinating the groomsmen. “You’ll be the point of contact for everything from suit fittings to travel arrangements,” Badja explains. “Set up a group chat early to get the ball rolling – it’s essential for keeping everyone informed and making sure things run smoothly.”
TIP: Regularly check-in with the groomsmen during the last month before the wedding to avoid any last-minute surprises.
Choosing the right attire
Make sure the groomsmen’s outfits suit the groom’s style and the wedding theme, whether it’s a formal tux or a casual suit. “Matching small details like pocket squares or ties can help create a classy look for the wedding party.” Badju also advises one colour to avoid, if possible, is brown.
TIP: Coordinate with the groom about the attire as soon as the wedding theme is set, and schedule suit fittings at least two or three months before the wedding. Overlook this responsibility at your peril.
Balancing personal commitments
The key to being a great best man is time management. Make sure you set aside dedicated times for wedding responsibilities to ensure they don’t interfere with your work or personal life.
TIP: Use digital tools like calendars or reminders to schedule your best man duties around personal commitments, and start preparations early to avoid last-minute stress.
Delivering a memorable speech
One of the most anticipated moments for the best man is delivering the speech. Badju recommends focusing on authenticity: “Make it personal and heartfelt, with a touch of humour. Practice in advance so you’re comfortable and confident on the big day.
“It’s also important to remember that the speech is not about you, but about the couple in front of you. Keeping the speech specific to the couple makes it feel more authentic and special while avoiding any awkward moments or putting people to sleep.” And remember, it’s not a lecture, so a maximum length of five to seven minutes is ideal.
TIP: Write your speech at least a month in advance, and practice it multiple times, ideally in front of a small group of friends for feedback.
Ushering duties
The best man’s speech is not the end of the night for you, says Badju. A great best man may also escort guests to their carriages safely and soundly. “Being a best man comes with both honour and responsibility,” says Badju. The goal is to create a smooth experience for the couple while making lasting memories. “A well-prepared best man can elevate the wedding day, but going the extra mile will put you down in best man folklore.”
TIP: Get to know the staff at the venue and let them know how much of a team player you are – this is your chance to impress the couple and guests and stay in the staff ’s good books for any potential future events to come.
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