By the Marry Men wedding officiants
When it comes to planning your wedding, it’s easy to be dazzled by stunning portfolios, glowing reviews and picture-perfect social media feeds. But as the old saying goes, “all that glistens is not gold.” Beyond the polished images and perpetual promises lies something even more important: the vibe. Finding the perfect wedding vendors – be it an officiant, planner, florist or photographer – should be more than just a formality. It’s important to choose vendors who deliver quality service and also align with your personalities. This can make all the difference between a stressful experience and a truly magical day.
A wedding day should feel like a celebration of something extraordinary and not just another checkbox on life’s ever-growing to-do list. Here’s why vibe-checking your wedding vendors helps to make a positive first impression that will shape one of the most important days of your lives.
Your story starts with you
Not every couple radiates fireworks, and that’s okay. Sometimes love is quiet, understated and deeply private. Some people may have never been asked to reflect on their love story, while others simply don’t have the words to articulate their feelings. An officiant’s job isn’t to invent your story, but to honour the one they’ve been given.
An experienced wedding officiant will do their best to draw out even the smallest details – a shared joke, a favourite anecdote, an odd quirk you both embrace – and let those moments anchor the ceremony. But it’s not about the material – it’s about the energy. The couples who light up when they talk about one another are the ones who make an officiant’s job easy and enjoyable. When your authenticity fills the room and the spark between you is burning, your ceremony practically writes itself.
Do you hear what I hear?
Wedding vendors are in the relationship business and thrive on getting to know a couple’s story. Providing engaging and thoughtful responses during initial conversations and on questionnaires can demonstrate that you have considered what you want and what your wishes are for your wedding day.
Experienced wedding vendors can tell if you haven’t paused to consider what makes your partnership special – or worse, if you’ve forgotten why you are taking a walk down the aisle in the first place. Your excitement about celebrating your love is contagious and can motivate a wedding professional to go above and beyond to create a memorable and meaningful wedding experience.
Do you see what I see?
A discovery call is your opportunity to articulate your vision for your wedding day. Good wedding vendors are focused on curating events that not only promote their brand and services but are also tailored to satisfying a couple’s specific tastes and needs. Being enthusiastic about your vision will reassure the professional that you are serious about the process and that you value their expertise. Being vague or disengaged can result in missed opportunities for genuine personalization.
Do you know what I know?
Many wedding vendors work with multiple clients and have the luxury of choosing whom they wish to spend their professional and personal time with, especially during peak wedding seasons. Wedding vendors are naturally drawn to couples who acknowledge their expertise and express appreciation for their time.
If you make a great impression by being personable and prepared, you are more likely to stand out. A couple who is intentional and thoughtful in their interactions will secure the confidence of their chosen professional and lay the groundwork for a wedding day that will feel meaningful, memorable and magical.
Listen to what I say
Good vendors will invest a significant amount of time and creative energy into planning, preparing and executing their services. A couple that responds to emails, shows up on time for tastings and rehearsals, and doesn’t pester the pros will help foster mutual respect and encourage the wedding vendors to exceed expectations.
Walking down the aisle is not a one-way journey. While you’re searching for the perfect professionals to bring your wedding vision to life, vendors are also looking for couples they vibe with. Making a positive first impression establishes trust and a connection that makes the vendor feel confident they can effectively make your wedding day the one you deserve.
Photography: (top) Liza Litvinovich Photography; (right) Lydia Ivy Photograph
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