You might be a bit nervous, a little excited and very ready to ask: “Will you be my maid of honour?” Only one question remains: How will you do it? Whether you go big or small, clever or cute, putting some thought into that moment shows your maid of honour how important it is to have her by your side on the big day. Show your enthusiasm and appreciation in a way that reflects your personality and creates a sweet memory.
Say It With Sweets
Spelling out the question on a homemade cupcake or cookie will melt your maid of honour’s heart. If you’re not a natural baker, buy treats like macaroons, package them in a decorative box and add a card.
Ask With a Card
Hand written cards have a charm your maid of honour cannot deny. Say something cute: “I need something old, something new, something borrowed, something blue and you.” Or say something funny: “They say I’ll need someone to hold my dress when I pee.” For a more personal message, write your own definition of a maid of honour followed by the question.
Surprise her with a personal touch where she doesn’t expect it. Customize a wine label, engrave matching bangles or create a personal message in a fortune cookie. You can even engrave the bottom of a mug with “Will you be my maid of honour?” Then invite her over for coffee and serve her drink in your personalized mug. When she finishes her coffee, the question will happily surprise her.
Being a maid of honour comes with responsibility, time and effort. Accompany your question with a thank-you gift in advance. Tailor a gift she can use for your wedding; consider a lipstick you’d like her to wear to match your wedding’s theme. You can even pay for her manicure or spa day so she can pamper herself.
A mini survival kit is both practical and clever. In a cute tote or decorated box, add little necessities: gum, Advil, band aids, breathe mints, a nail buffer and the list goes on. For a humorous bit, you can add something fun like sunglasses if you are having a destination wedding or a little bottle of her favourite drink.
Of course, you can always ask your maid of honour over a cocktail during a ladies’ night. As long as she says “yes,” there is no wrong way to pop the question.
Originally published in Today’s Bride magazine, Spring/Summer 2015.